well this topic i made.... coz i know someone who has not so great past... arrested like 40 times, didn't finish school (quit at age of 15) beaten up by lots of people, hurted like hell, experimented with drugs.... got friends who hang themselves... and there is one guy who wanted to kill her...

now this is real life... but imagine someone you really like and really wanna be with him/her.... is the past of that guy or girl important???

i mean this is over now.... no more arresting things, no more drug things, she/he's following eveningschool now...

but.... her past....

i ask again= is this important? does it scares you off?

EDIT= this is extreme in the past... if you guys/girls want... i can also say , what if the gf or bf had lots of girlfriends or boyfriends in the past or had sex with like 20 people.... does that scare you off??
(that is less extreme than the poll i'm making now)

Something between the options

And just imagine:

Stevo: Tell me something about you.
Girl: Ok, 2 years ago i was a man...

Would this be important to you?

haha touché

everyone deserves a second chance dont they ????

the past is the past and at the end of the day if you really like someone

comprises can me made.

Stevo, look at my current relationship ..... divorced, 5 year old kid, and lots

of emotional baggage.

sorry but don't want a slut / whore ,, to be my gf .

i mean,, if she was a big slut in the past who dated and cheated on hundreds,,. i don't think i'm gonna be proud to be with her then ,.even if she is that cute.

Totally agree. In fact call it sexist but I don't think I would be comfortable with a gf who had slept with more people than myself.

so basically you just go for virgins....

i say it depends for the second chance....

i had kinda wild life with loads of girls in my old days... if girls know that now... well my chances to score are lower... so i just don't tell but sooner or later there's a moron who will tell it...

and then i just say i WAS like that and i'm not anymore now
but this is about cheating on gf / bf that's not soo bad...

but if you were like example in jail for murder.... then forget it... no mercy and no second chance!

and you... well i think it sucks getting divorced... the one who suffers most are the kids... in your case... your 5y old kid

ohh .. too extreme options ! .. yeah it would be something in the middle i think .. everybody has a past, so it would not be a problem for me if he has a "normal" past .. but a "terrible" past ? dunno ..

i got nothing to do with them now

dude , that's not the question...

would you or wouldn't you date someone who had a terrible past?? simple question... different opinions..

In my present relationship she opened her heart and told me all her dark

secrets, I think that she does trust me and then in return I told her

about my ugly pass.

At the end of the day relationships are about compromises, give and take.

If you can look beyond her pass then by all means go for it.

Follow your heart mate

Personally if I was in your situation I would go for it because you have to find

out for yourself. If you dont then at the back of your mind you will always

wonder ..... what if ????

Good luck Stevo